Need Some Advice for a Friend...

[English Mobster]

There's a girl I've become good friends with who just moved to California from Utah.
However, she's been really depressed lately about probably never going to see her friends again/not being able to see them again for quite some time.
I feel really bad for her, and I want to help. Is there any advice you can give me to help her feel better? I hate seeing someone be so sad and there being nothing I can do...

[Heathen]

There is nothing to do, tell her the world is a much harsher place than that and life is gonna be a lot harder.

Basically, tell her to grow up.

Is she ugly? Can she not make new friends?

[English Mobster]

No, its not that, it's just she misses her old friends.
It is a childish thing to be depressed about, but I do feel bad for her.

[Heathen]

Yeah, and I sympathize, but she needs to realize that its not the end of the world.
Tell her she can make more and that she has to adjust to things in life.

Trust me, she might not like it at first, but if she isn't stupider than hell, she will thank you for it. And if I know you right, you aren't talking to a girl that's that stupid.

[Ganon]

most high school friends are useless, she will get over them.

[rossmum]

Boo fucking hoo. I moved internationally three times as a kid, how do you think I felt?

Tell her there's a reason the telephone was invented (and even the internet, too), and at least she's still on the same continent.

[Heathen]

^ this

Edit after seeing ross's post: and this ^

[Limited]

If their friendship is really strong, the distance won't be a barrier and they will work out a solution to still keep in contact. It does suck yes, but thats just the way it is. I moved away, when I came back people who I thought were good friends dont want to know me and dont bother, so I dont bother with them and hardly think about it.

Just reassure her she will make great friends here and she can still keep in contact with her old friends via phone or internet.

[=sw=warlord]

Tell her she can probably still see her friends just not as often.
When she's able to drive and has finished what ever she's done she could probably still go visit once every fews months or something.

[kid908]

I know a girl in that exact situation. She moves about once a year. Just tell her to get fucking myspace, facebook and every other modern shit since most if not all of them have communication applications, that's how I talk to her (the one I know and she isn't a friend from high school...I know her from middle school)

I hate ppl like your friend. I know a guy that whines like her. He moved to a different fucking school and will be coming back in 3 weeks (or he says) and he keeps fucking spamming my fb with his hatred of his situation. Grow a few and find new friends (hmmm...maybe that expression doesn't work with girls...)

[legionaire45]

Skype.

I'm in New York right now, and besides my room mate, I know almost nobody here. However, I've been keeping in contact with people over Skype and that's been helping me adjust a lot better.

[Alwin Roth]

Eventually once you graduate and spend a couple years in college, you'll still be in contact with maybe 4% of your friends from highschool.

[mech]

Tell her to grow up.

[STLRamsFan]

Quite honestly I'm not really a big fan of any of these responses (no disrespect to anybody). There's really nothing you can advice her on. The best thing you can do for her is to just be supportive of her and be a good friend. It's perfectly okay to be sad, my cousin had to move twice during high school which was a bit of a downer. She was sad for a bit but bounced right back up after awhile. Just be supportive of her and tell her it's gonna be alright. Be understanding of her, moving at the age can be quite difficult. Leaving can be depressing but she'll bounce back.

[Corndogman]

I have to agree with Rams here. I know most of you guys like to keep the tough guy act, that's fine whatever. But I know I'd be pretty upset if I had to move away from all of my friends. I've only ever moved once, when I was like 6, so its not like I had any meaningful friends. I'm not the kind of person to get right out there and make a lot of new friends, so the ones I have are ones I've known for a long time and am pretty close with.

I do understand where you guys (i.e. Ross) come from, since you guys have experienced this a few times its hardened you up a bit. But you have to understand that not everyone is going to be able to handle these kind of situations like you can. I think some of you may be missing the point of this thread, he wants to comfort her and be a good friend, not give her a life lesson and tell her to harden the fuck up. That can come later if it must, but right now he's asking for advice on how to comfort her, so just keep that in mind.

My advice though is just to keep being there for her and trying to ease her into her new situation. It will probably take time for her to adjust, but once she does she will be grateful to you (hopefully).