I need you guys to settle a dispute for me...

[English Mobster]

My best friend (let's call her "Ruth") and I are no longer on speaking terms, and she says it's all my fault.
Essentially, here's the facts:


About a week ago, I made a lighthearted comment, asking her what color her crotch hair was (she's a redhead). I didn't mean anything by it.
She immediately took offense and punched me in the arm, which prompted a quick apology from myself.
She refused to talk to me for the rest of the day (despite me apologizing three more times).
The next day, she still wasn't talking to me. I decided to let her go and calm down, so I leave her alone for the weekend.
Today, my other best friend (let's call her "Holly") comes up to talk to me. Apparently, at Ruth's birthday party, Ruth came up to Holly and told her she shouldn't hang out with me anymore. Holly tried to make amends and get Ruth to see that she was being irrational, but Ruth just ignored her.
This prompted a... somewhat violent reaction from me, and I yelled at Ruth for trying to get my best friends to leave me. I give Ruth a shove at the end because she isn't listening to anything I'm saying. The shove isn't hard enough to hurt her, but I hoped that it would knock some sense into her and make her see that she's being irrational.
Ruth complains to all her friends that I have done some great wrong to her, about half of whom now want to beat the living shit out of me. Ruth is still ignoring me, and has blocked any attempts by myself to bring about negotiations or any kind of reconciliation.
She has also stopped listening to Holly or any of her other real-world friends, all of whom have taken my side on the matter. She insists that I have done something majorly fucked-up and should do something about it to appease her, although she neglects to tell me what it is I should do about it.

I brought this up here to get your guys' opinion on this and maybe knock some sense into her. Any advice would help as well.

[Timo]

Shove a guy and get punched in the face, shove a girl and get bitched at. It's how it works the vast majority of the time.

[ultama121]

You're not in the right, nor is she. It sounds a bit like some insecurities/immaturities on her part as well as yours. At this point, don't take it to heart. There's really nothing you can do here but let go; if she keeps an unending grudge she's only proving your point for you.

Though despite that, it seems you did say something somewhat unacceptable, but if you were truly sorry and showed that, she should not have continued such an extreme reaction... on top of that, Ruth's action of going to each and every friend of hers and making you look bad was kind of a douche move. :/

Basically, here's my point:

Ruth complains to all her friends that I have done some great wrong to her ... She has also stopped listening to Holly or any of her other real-world friendsSo essentially you're saying that all of her IRL friends including girls seem to think she's overreacting... so she went and started crying one-sided stories to her internet friends who now want to beat the shit out of you? :V Sounds a bit immature.

Ruth is still ignoring me, and has blocked any attempts by myself to bring about negotiations or any kind of reconciliation.She wants to NOT forgive you. Your comment was out of line, but this isn't the way to go about coping with it.

TL;DR: I'm starting to think that at first you did do something a bit out of line, but she's blown it all out of proportion and turned it into something else. Her actions and your actions have put you both out of the right. I kind of wish I can unvote now, because both of you are out of the right to an extent... although her actions appear to be much more malicious than yours. So I'd say you're a bit closer.

TL;DR:TL;DR: You were wrong with the pushing and less so with the comment. She was way more wrong with her actions.

Holy shit I've revised this post too much.

[ICEE]

you were wrong from the beginning, and you got even wronger with the shoving.

[annihilation]

you were wrong from the beginning, and you got even wronger with the shoving.

.

That being said she is also being irrational and stubborn.

[StankBacon]

you were wrong from the beginning, and you got even wronger with the shoving.

wtf... wrong in the shoving yes, but making a comment like he did is hardly justification for her to go nuts as she did.

this chick obviously has some issues and id say good riddane shes out of your life, so long as you still have your other sane friends.

[ICEE]

Granted, it shouldn't be an unforgivable sin to ask a woman such a question, she still has the right to get mad about it. Some people are just uptight. Deal with it mang

[Con]

wtf... wrong in the shoving yes, but making a comment like he did is hardly justification for her to go nuts as she did.

this chick obviously has some issues and id say good riddane shes out of your life, so long as you still have your other sane friends.
agreed

You obviously want someone who you can be yourself around. You tried that and her reaction was IMO immature and irrational. If she doesn't like your sense of humour, and your wishes to speak freely in general, then I think that's a clear indication that she wasn't right for you in the first place. The shoving was unneeded though, so don't think you're in the clear.

[n00b1n8R]

The number of times us ranga's get asked that question, you're lucky you got off so lightly. <:maddowns:>

Seriously but, up until you shoved her back, you were in the clear. After that it just became a shit flinging contest. You could try admitting you're both at fault but it doesn't sound like she's interested in being reasonable.

[p0lar_bear]

Yeah, just drop her like a bad habit, because at this point, she is. She wants to milk your reactions for all they're worth at this point, and so far has been successful at it. The best thing you can do now is to avoid her at all costs. Just ignore her and her goon squad, and if things get really serious and she won't leave you alone, file a restraining order. She wants material she can use as ammo in the shit-flinging, and you'd de doing yourself a favor by doing nothing, as ANYTHING is ammo at this point.

[=sw=warlord]

I'm going to be blunt with this.
If your friends can believe something from such a one sided perspective and decide that they don't want to talk to you then their probably not people worth having around.
Real friends would know you a lot better than to take just one perspective and only see that as the truth.
The moment a friend makes you choose them over someone else they no longer become a friend in my opinion.

[sleepy1212]

I can't vote because you broke one of the cardinal rules of dealing with women: never get dragged into the emotional chaos, especially by doing something irrational (like pushing her). That was really dumb and you should have left it at "wtf".

chances are it has nothing to do with your comment and something else entirely that just made what you said the straw that broke the camel's back. Maybe she had a hard time shaving that morning or read something unfunny (funny) about gingers or maybe she was just thinking how nice of a person you are and then you say something like that or maybe she was already mad at you. Either way I don't think you did anything wrong and on another day she probably would have laughed about it.

At any rate you have three choices:

Apologize and then act like nothing happened until she's over it.
Act like nothing happened and apologize when she's over it.
Ignore her forever.

*notice the first two differ in order based on when you're on speaking terms.

I'd also like to point out you can never have two female best friends. Two girls get along fine. Three do not. You are one of the girls. That makes three. That's one too many. There are no Three Female Musketeers. When it comes to girls two is company, three is always a crowd. One will always get shunned, picked on, or treated badly enough to make her leave reducing the number to two. They are like oxygen atoms. That is why "Ruth" is trying to take out "Holly". Too many girls in one place. You're going to lose one of them or they are going to lose you. sorry.

[Cojafoji]

She was wrong, but you never, ever lay a finger on a woman. Sounds like a fair weather friend to me. Let it go.

[STLRamsFan]

She's in the wrong for overreacting while you're in the wrong for the pushing. I can understand you were upset and all but unless she was physically harming you, that was just wrong. And quite honestly she sounds real immature, especially for overreacting over a stupid comment. This kind of reminds me of a time where me and friend were throwing medicine balls at each other while waiting for a gym class to start and I accidentally threw one to her face. She was a little ticked at first, got over it. Of course she ended up getting revenge by punching me in the gut while doing the gym class go figure haha.... Big difference in maturity there because she knew I didn't mean it and got over it, while your friend can't seem to get over a stupid comment that you didn't mean. Although you did make things far worse than they should have been with the pushing.

[Aerowyn]

I think you're both in the wrong. Now, I'm not entirely sure how close you two were before this little spat, but asking her if she's a firecrotch comes off to me as being pretty rude. I would never think of asking my best guy friend about the size of his penis unless we were, you know, dating or something, and talk about the intimate areas is somewhat warranted.

Her reaction despite your apologies is completely overblown, but by the same token, you shouldn't have shoved her.

If she is unwilling to reason with you or any of her friends, it seems as if she wasn't really your friend to begin with.

[teh lag]

About a week ago, I made a lighthearted comment, asking her what color her crotch hair was

Well there's your problem. You didn't give any real context about your relationship or social group (is this kind of joke common? do you guys have a lot of sexual humor?) so it's kindof a gut feeling here but unless you were somehow on the subject of peoples' nether regions or their hair color, I think it's perfectly understandable for her to be put off a fair amount. Believe it or not, people can and do get upset over silly things -I bet there are one or two seemingly innocuous things that could set you off as well.


I give Ruth a shove at the end because she isn't listening to anything I'm saying.

:suicide: Maybe she overreacted at first but I really have to say you fucked up big time by doing that, no matter how you try to rationalize it. Unless you're in a drama or action movie where the fate of your career or the world is at stake I don't think that's a generally good idea when apologizing to someone. And you're not in a drama or action movie.


She has also stopped listening to Holly or any of her other real-world friends, all of whom have taken my side on the matter. She insists that I have done something majorly fucked-up and should do something about it to appease her, although she neglects to tell me what it is I should do about it.

Ok, this is pretty unreasonable of her but then again, teenagers. Dramatic teenagers. Sucks. It's up to you guys to work together if you want to solve this and it was your choice to make it into something even bigger by deciding that force was the best way to get her to listen - rather than, you know, giving her some more time and letting the thing blow over.


knock some sense into her

...Oh dear. The last thing you need in your mindset for doing this is "man she's so fucked up lets knock her back into reality!" Being confrontational got you in even deeper trouble the first time. If you want to repair your relationship in a realistic, manageable manner I would suggest giving it time, not hoping that a brute-force attempt will break through to her.

One last thing that concerns me about this.


Ruth complains to all her friends that I have done some great wrong to her, about half of whom now want to beat the living shit out of me. Ruth is still ignoring me, and has blocked any attempts by myself to bring about negotiations or any kind of reconciliation.

She has also stopped listening to Holly or any of her other real-world friends, all of whom have taken my side on the matter.

I assume these are two different sets of friends? You're really not explaining your group dynamics to us. It's really not easy to "settle a dispute" without knowing the context or if there are these kinds of bizarre apparent contradictions.

[Limited]

Pretty much what Lag said, it depends what kind of relationship you have with each other, if your real close and open about alot of things she may have taken it differently, but she sounds like shes pretty closed off about intimate things.

Has she overreacted? Yeah, okay it was rude that you asked her (unless like I said, you have that sexual humor banter going on) but the fact shes still pissed after a week, and now getting your friends to go against you, thats pretty fucked up and low.

Personally I wouldnt try and patch up with Ruth, she seems a total bitch. You've said your sorry, and I'd apologise again to Ruth and said you had no right to shout at her and shove her. If Ruth doesnt forgive you, well its her lose.

Maybe shes just being real stubborn for a different reason and your taking all the flack for that.

[ICEE]

As a redhead, I can tell you that people ask. She's a girl, I'm sure people ask her more than they ask me. If she's sensitive it could get overwhelming. If she's sensitive and a friend asks her, someone she didn't expect to objectify her in such a way, it could get really overwhelming.

There you go

[Maniac]

You dont raise your hand to a woman.
EVER.

[n00b1n8R]

Ginger here, asking us if we're fire crotch's is no biggy, ignore all the idiots who don't have a clue what they're talking about~

[Roostervier]

I would never think of asking my best guy friend about the size of his penis unless we were, you know, dating or something, and talk about the intimate areas is somewhat warranted.

Penis size and the pigment of one's pubic hair are no where near similar. but really, you probably shouldn't have asked that. unless you were on really good terms with this girl, in no way was that ever a good idea. pushing her was even worse. yeah she might be wrong but there's no changing, really, how she feels now. just don't make the same mistake another time, lol.

[ICEE]

Ginger here, asking us if we're fire crotch's is no biggy, ignore all the idiots who don't have a clue what they're talking about~

Hey, your a male ginger. She's a female ginger. Your opinion is invalid here.
And for the record, I didn't state my opinion. I stated the fact that people ask, and that it is evidently a big deal to her.

[n00b1n8R]

Hey, your a male ginger. She's a female ginger. Your opinion is invalid here.
And for the record, I didn't state my opinion. I stated the fact that people ask, and that it is evidently a big deal to her.
Female rangers I know don't care either.
Seriously Jay, are you like 14 or something?

[English Mobster]

16, almost 17.
If it helps, she just turned 15. The two of us dated for two months before she broke it off. We stayed close friends (she was my best friend at one point), and I would repeatedly joke about her boobs and such, which she never seemed to take too badly.

Things were fine between us until this happened.
Also, to clear it up, she has two circles of friends: Her online friends (five or six former IRL friends from where she used to live, in Utah) and her IRL friends.

[Donut]

is she going to read this thread? i really hope so. luls will ensue.
poll is misleading. should say who is in the WRONG, in which case id check off both bubbles. let me break this down to the best of my ability (keeping in mind that i pretty much detest how females handle everything):
first off im going to be totally blunt and say that if your two best friends are girls (and as i recall you are my age, fuck this age group), youre setting yourself up for some ridiculously melo-dramatic bullshitery. girls at this age will bitch and carry on just to get attention if nothing else.

My best friend (let's call her "Ruth") and I are no longer on speaking terms, and she says it's all my fault.
Essentially, here's the facts:



About a week ago, I made a lighthearted comment, asking her what color her crotch hair was (she's a redhead). I didn't mean anything by it.
your first comment was fine. its a bit off color, not something i would ask someone, but its nothing to throw a pissy fit for.
She immediately took offense and punched me in the arm, which prompted a quick apology from myself.
i can understand her punching you in the arm, kind of like a knee-jerk "offended" reaction. your apology should have been enough to cover this.
She refused to talk to me for the rest of the day (despite me apologizing three more times).
like i said before, melo-dramatic bullshit. you shouldnt have apologized. let her cool off on her own. if shes not willing to accept it the first time, then fuck her. she can stew for a day.
The next day, she still wasn't talking to me. I decided to let her go and calm down, so I leave her alone for the weekend.
smart move.
Today, my other best friend (let's call her "Holly") comes up to talk to me. Apparently, at Ruth's birthday party, Ruth came up to Holly and told her she shouldn't hang out with me anymore. Holly tried to make amends and get Ruth to see that she was being irrational, but Ruth just ignored her.
remember when i said i hate how girls handle shit? this is what i mean. they pull every other girl they know into it, and then the girls who get pulled into it are just as dumb and automatically take her side because "aww, she feels bad". looks like you lucked out with "holly", as it seems that didnt happen with her.
This prompted a... somewhat violent reaction from me, and I yelled at Ruth for trying to get my best friends to leave me. I give Ruth a shove at the end because she isn't listening to anything I'm saying. The shove isn't hard enough to hurt her, but I hoped that it would knock some sense into her and make her see that she's being irrational.
when you say not listening, do you mean staring off with an irritated look on her face, or carrying on like a child with her hands on her ears? the shove was a bad idea imo because again, girls summon their holy circle of friends to go against you.
im going to go off topic here for a second and just make sure you realize that when girls start talking to their friends about who's an asshole, etc..., that shit spreads so far that people you dont even know will be giving you the stink-eye, and youll never even know why.
also youre not supposed to hit girls or anything like that. i could write a god damn novel explaining why thats a double standard, but thats for another day. keep yourself out of trouble, and dont do anything like that again.

Ruth complains to all her friends that I have done some great wrong to her, about half of whom now want to beat the living shit out of me. Ruth is still ignoring me, and has blocked any attempts by myself to bring about negotiations or any kind of reconciliation.
what did i say above? all i can tell you here is that if anyone confronts you, keep your cool and tell them to "consider the source". if they give you that "what the fuck" look, just briefly explain that you know this "ruth" character has turned them against you, and that if theyre that immature that they cant look at both sides before forming an opinion, they can fuck right off along with ruth
She has also stopped listening to Holly or any of her other real-world friends, all of whom have taken my side on the matter. She insists that I have done something majorly fucked-up and should do something about it to appease her, although she neglects to tell me what it is I should do about it.
HAHA! appease her? oh god damn fuck that. if there was any sympathy for this asshat at any point in this story, it is goner than gone now. its a good thing holly has a good head on her shoulders. dont give a fuck what ruth wants from you now. shes being an immature brat trying to get negative attention from you. dont even pay attention to her anymore. if she cant see that shes losing a good friend, then good. she doesnt deserve you, and you dont deserve the shit shes giving you. if she confronts you negatively (that is to say, to bitch more) just tell her you really wish she would be more mature about the situation, and walk away. its an ego hit to walk away from somebody you know you can beat (verbally or otherwise), but believe me, its going to hurt her ego alot more.


I brought this up here to get your guys' opinion on this and maybe knock some sense into her. Any advice would help as well.
responses in BOLD. i sincerely hope i helped you with the situation
E: also im really hoping you didnt leave anything else out here, because im noticing quite a bit of hypocrisy in my argument when i say "look at both sides of the situation" and i automatically take your side.

[Aerowyn]

If it helps, she just turned 15. The two of us dated for two months before she broke it off. We stayed close friends (she was my best friend at one point), and I would repeatedly joke about her boobs and such, which she never seemed to take too badly.


http://www.hayabusa.org/forum/attachments/random-thoughts/169828-good-girl-bad-girl-chris-hansen.jpg
How about you take a seat right over there?

[L0d3x]

Nothing wrong with the ginger vagina hair comment, but never hit girls, they can however hit you, that's how the world spins.

[Bodzilla]

Shove a guy and get punched in the face, shove a girl and get bitched at. It's how it works the vast majority of the time.
Wisdom.

[Timo]

Also, asking a guy if he's rockin' a fire crotch is OK (if you know him), but you're just looking for it by asking a girl tbh.

[Llama Juice]

I don't like this thread, last time you made a thread like this your sister died.

[malolo420]

Hahaha, sorry that made me laugh hard when I read "I made a lighthearted comment, asking her what color her crotch hair was (she's a redhead)."
Your both in the wrong, she shouldn't make such a big deal out of it and she should forgive you. But you shouldn't of asked her that.

[English Mobster]

Well, here's how it went today:
Me: "Hello, Ruth!"
*I get punched in the face*
Me: "That wasn't very nice."
Ruth: "Fuck you."
Me: "That's not very nice either."
*Ruth runs off*

Later...
Teacher: "What did you do?"
Me: "Huh?"
Teacher: "The principal wants to see you."
Me: "What for?"
Teacher: "I don't know. Go see him."

Slightly more later...
(I walk into the principal's office. I recognize the man behind the desk as one of Ruth's teacher friends. It never occurred to me that the man wasn't a teacher, but the principal. I don't get called up to the principal's office often.)
Principal: "Sit down."
Me: "Ok."
Principal: "As you know, Ruth and I are good friends."
Me: "Yes, I know."
Principal: "And today she told me you punched her in the face."
Me: "Okay, that isn't true. She punched me in the face, look."
*Points at black eye Ruth gave me*
Principal: "That's all well and good, but she had a black eye, too."
Me: "What?"
Principal: "Yes, I asked her how she got it, and she said you punched her in the face."
Me: "I never did that."
Principal: "She had the black eye, and I know Ruth very well. She wouldn't lie."
(I resist the urge to tell him that I know Ruth even better than he does, and she's a notorious liar. She has also been known for faking injuries in the past to get out of things like P.E.)
Me: "You don't think she did that herself and blamed me?"
Principal: "No, I know Ruth. She wouldn't do that."
Me: "That wasn't me, I swear to god."
Principal: "She also mentioned something about pubic hair..."
*The principal pulls out a five page (I'm not bullshitting you, it was five pages, front and back) report in Ruth's handwriting*
Me: "That part was true, it was a botched joke which I apologized many times over for."
Principal: "You shouldn't have said that."
Me: "I realize that. That would be why I apologized, many times over. She hasn't been listening to me, and has been acting very immature about it."
Principal: "Ruth has told me to inform you to stay away from her at all times. If you come near her, you will be suspended. Likewise, if you tell anyone that Ruth got you sent up to my office and word reaches round to her, she will tell me and you will be suspended. I'm going to give you a slap on the wrist and assign you five hours of community service for giving her a black eye."


So she pulls some more bullshit, giving herself a black eye (somehow) and blaming it on me. Apparently, within that 5 page (technically 10, since it was double-sided) report, she also came up with a bunch of other bullshit which she said I had been doing, even though I hadn't done any of the things she mentioned. To the contrary, she had actually done the majority of them to me, although since she's buddy-buddy with the principal, he took her side rather than mine. He refused to allow me to prove Ruth was making up bullshit by bringing in Holly or my other friend Dawn, both of whom watched most of this thing unfold.

I get home today to this lovely IM from a friend of hers, a wannabe Marine who lives in Utah, 1,000 miles away:

GUNNY says (9:28 PM):
ok i've heard shit that you say about her so its real even so yeah and yeah btw if she keeps blocking you and not talking thats a really good hint your fucked because that means im going to hunt you down and kill your fucking ass
English Mobster says (9:28 PM):
First off, I have no fucking clue what you just said. The entire first part of the sentence doesn't make any sense. Second off, if you seriously believe her, you're fucking retarded. I haven't been saying shit about her. Bring it on. You lay a hand on me, you lose any chance of getting into your precious marines. You know Ruth's a liar, and you've heard my side of the story. Think this through.Does anyone have a translation for the first part of that sentence, by the way?

E: Also, does anyone know if that constitutes cyberbullying? I think it does, but I would have no idea how to go about filing a complaint.

[malolo420]

Is Wayne Brady gunna have to smack a bitch?

[p0lar_bear]

You need a friend you can hang out with 24/7 (but not really) as a witness, you're pretty fucked right now. Don't sit alone anywhere, at lunch, in the library, etc because if she's as psycho as you're letting on, she'll most likely stalk you and get near you so she can yet again victimize herself and screw you over yet more. Ignore her. Do not even acknowledge her existence past her location, so you can avoid her. If she tries antagonizing you, she does not exist, continue on with whatever you're doing.

I would suggest trying to get a friend of hers to vouch for you, or get some kind of evidence that she's lying (e.g. tape recording), but with my luck (I tend to be the epitome of Murphy's Law) this would backfire and end up screwing you over yet more, so do so at your own risk and know what you could possibly get yourself into. If in doubt, ignore this part and just go with ignoring her.

[annihilation]

ok i've heard shit that you say about her so its real even so yeah and yeah btw if she keeps blocking you and not talking thats a really good hint your fucked because that means im going to hunt you down and kill your fucking ass


Okay, I've heard the shit you've said about "Ruth". Shit just got real. She blocked you and doesn't wanna talk to you for a good reason. You must have done something to piss her off and that pisses me off. I'm gonna hunt you down and kill you for hurting her.

And no, that's not cyber bullying. That's a threat. One that you might be able to report to the polic if you wanted to.

I wanna change my vote now. That whole ordeal was fucked up.


E: Listen to p0lar. That's probobly the best thing you can do at this point.
and/or start documenting everything.

E2: Principal and a student are friends? :conspiracy:

[Donut]

file a fucking lawsuit. jesus chirst.
E: no really, file a fucking lawsuit.
E2: and dont ask people about their crotch hair anymore either, fuck. i cannot believe this is all a result of asking about pubes. i get the impression that this girl has been a pent up A-bomb waiting for an excuse to flip the fuck out on somebody, and you just happened to get in the line of fire. definitely not a healthy individual, and if your fucking principle doesnt realize how ass backwards this is, then hes an idiot too.

[Llama Juice]

Is Ruth hot? Pix?

[teh lag]

This has evolved beyond what we can help you with here especially if this is indeed the case:


Likewise, if you tell anyone that Ruth got you sent up to my office and word reaches round to her, she will tell me and you will be suspended.
(uhhhh)

Talk with your family and talk with them seriously. Don't come to us if people are saying they're going to goddamn kill you. This absolutely does not sound like a triviality that you go chatting with internet buddies over or adapting real life events to internet forums over.


Bring it on. You lay a hand on me, you lose any chance of getting into your precious marines.

This honestly speaks for itself. I hope you know what I mean.

[malolo420]

No don't file a law suit. I've got a few charges, 3 assault and 2 mischief and it makes your life a living hell. Specially being on probation.
No one deserves to be a slave to the government, well, rapists and murderers do. But anything less lawsuits are pointless. Well I guess home invasions and shit too.

[StankBacon]

yah this is all bullshit.

[ICEE]

yeah something tells me this is all going to go in Jay's upcoming book: They Found Her in a Dumpster, or Maybe an Alley or Something: A collection of fictional tales told to the internet by one imaginative drama queen.

By the way I'm copyrighting that title just in case.

[Cojafoji]

No lie, you need to get a lawyer involved. A principal isn't legally allowed to silence you, even if it involves another student. You might go down for a harassment charge, but god damn, if you're not careful this thing could spiral out of control fast, and things could get a lot worse. Make sure you get written statements from your two friends about what happened, and seeing as how you're from California, I must ask if your school has cameras. If they do, they're obligated to retain the footage for a certain amount of time. You're a fucking idiot for even making the joke, and then touching her, but she's obviously mentally unstable. If this gets any worse, insist on a psychiatric evaluation for her.

If this is all bullshit, I will hunt you down EM, and scalp you.

[Donut]

yeah something tells me this is all going to go in Jay's upcoming book: They Found Her in a Dumpster, or Maybe an Alley or Something: A collection of fictional tales told to the internet by one imaginative drama queen.

By the way I'm copyrighting that title just in case.
i really hate to say it but after reading the whole part with the principle, i was thinking this too. this whole story just seems a bit TOO ridiculous.

if its really getting this out of hand, get a lawyer and press charges. if anything at this point, YOU are being harassed. i mean seriously, a principle who automatically blames you without hearing your story, IN LIGHT OF your own black eye? this is fucking ridiculous. tell your parents how fucked up this is, and get a lawyer. thats all i can say at this point

[annihilation]

All this over pubes?

[Cojafoji]

Oh yeah, if this bitch persists, go to the press. They will eat this shit ALIVE.

[SnaFuBAR]

Modacity: Paralegal Services.

No seriously what the fuck are you thinking. If this is legit (forgive my less than convinced demeanor) don't come to us, go to the lawyers/cops/superintendent/family.

[English Mobster]

Not bullshit, guys.
I pulled that shit once, learned my lesson, not again.

I've just decided I'm going to leave her alone. Our friendship at this point is pretty much in tatters; there's not really much reason for this thread anymore, since there's no going back to the way things were between us.

Oh well.

[English Mobster]

Unlocked because update.

I was sitting with another friend of mine at lunch today (let's call her "Ashley"), when Ruth walked up to me (yes, she did have a black eye). She started talking shit, trying to set me off so I would do something stupid. I didn't have a chance to react, because Ashley got very... vocal, very quickly. The two cussed each other out for a few moments before Ruth ran off towards the principal's office. Ashley didn't lay a finger on Ruth, but I'm afraid that Ruth might stretch the truth a bit to get Ashley in trouble.
I don't want to get Ashley to get dragged into this mess as well, but I haven't seen her since. It was just Ashley and I at the time, so there were no other witnesses. I didn't see Ashley after school like I normally do, so I'm seriously concerned that she got suspended, although she may have just been tied up with something.
If Ashley does get caught up in this web, what should I do? I'm not sure the principal would believe my testimony, as he still thinks Ruth is still a perfect little angel. Any advice?
A few friends of mine told me to go to my counselor to try to get this all sorted out, but I haven't gone yet.
I also got my dad to call the principal, although I haven't heard back from him yet, so I don't know how it went.

Oh, yes, since someone asked, here's a picture of Ruth, circa September 2009:

What the fuck are you thinking?

[=sw=warlord]

You really want to remove that picture, if someone from your area knew of this site and screencapped your post then what's going on now could be the least if your worries.

You've actually just dropped to a new low in my book's.
Yes your situation is bad but you Never personally identify people in a public forum, online or not.

[annihilation]

Switch schools.

[SnaFuBAR]

Do not reopen this thread for any reason. Do not start a new one.

[teh lag]

Any advice?
A few friends of mine told me to go to my counselor to try to get this all sorted out, but I haven't gone yet.

Holy SHIT. What is it going to fucking take?

You've lost your best friend, been strong-armed by your principal into silence (this is NOT how school systems work, this should have sent you running to get help as soon as it happened), been physically assaulted to the point of getting a black eye, and received a fucking death threat.

To hell with who started what. That doesn't matter now. If all that isn't enough to send you to every goddamn adult you know I don't fucking know what would, because if it was me I would tell my parents and everyone around me that, above all else, there is a man from Utah who could be stalking me.

WAKE.
UP.

This is not something that you post about on the Internet. Go to people about this and go to them about it right fucking now, as in as soon as you finish reading this. Go to them and tell them about everything that's happened to you because holy SHIT this would have me more than a little shaken and you don't really seem to be. Don't give us "updates" on your totally zany high-school drama - we don't give a shit. At this point all we can do is go "awwww poor youuuuuu", which I have a strong feeling is all you're really trying to get out of this. Whether it's made up or not is out of the question here; your past actions haven't made me or many other people inclined to believe you when you post a ridiculous story like this but at this point I don't give a damn. A man told you he was going to kill you and your reaction is "Oh well." This is damn serious by the way you've described it, don't waste any more time keeping us up-to-date on this nail-biting thriller.



I also got my dad to call the principal, although I haven't heard back from him yet, so I don't know how it went.

How thick are you? This should be the biggest concern on your goddamn mind right now - well, second, behind the guy who said he was going to hunt you down and kill you. Find out from him and don't fucking post about it, talk to your dad about how your life has become like something out of a goddamn soap opera.

And Jesus Christ, posting a picture of her on the internet? To people who don't know her at all? Are you a moron? That opens up all kinds of new horrible avenues for this already horrible situation to go down.

You really want to remove that picture, if someone from your area knew of this site and screencapped your post then what's going on now could be the least if your worries.

You've actually just dropped to a new low in my book's.
Yes your situation is bad but you Never personally identify people in a public forum, online or not.

Read this. Read it 50 times. Actually, don't right now, do it after you've found at least three grown adults and fully explained this situation to them. But when you do, read it 50 times.

Do not come to us about this. Go to a grownup. Go to someone who is qualified. Go to someone who can help you right now, today, instead of internet buddies who can only give you vague directions as to what to do.